For many committed couples, sex often means "mating in captivity." This workshop will probe the intricacies of love and desire—how they relate and how they conflict. Participants will learn how emotional intimacy can inhibit sexual desire and why "good intimacy" doesn't necessarily make for "good sex." We'll consider the link between a couple's sexual passion and their tolerance for mutual uncertainty, and discuss common blocks to eroticism, including fear of entrapment, lack of breathing distance, and pleasure-killing guilt and worry. You'll learn how to create an atmosphere free of judgment about what couples want, how to help partners find a shared language in which they can voice their erotic longing, and how to actively coach partners to move beyond their familiar comfort zone into an expansive, fully charged sexuality. (This workshop will continue in Workshop 511.)