306 Twenty years ago, the recovery movement brought clinicians face to face with women who'd been abused as children, and were no longer willing to keep this family secret at their own expense. Therapists responded by encouraging clients to tell their truths, explore their pasts, and sometimes cut off from, or even prosecute, family members in the interest of healing. For many therapists today, the stark polarization of innocent victim/evil victimizer no longer seems necessary, or clinically useful. This session will explore when--and if--reconciliation between survivors and their abusive families is possible and whether some middle ground can be found even when the abuser expresses no repentance. The Courage to Heal author Laura Davis will share her personal experience of rebuilding her relationship with her mother, outline four pathways to reconciliation, and facilitate a discussion on strategies that support clients in moving from estrangement to connection.