420 Confused by conflicting messages from professionals and vague fears of doing psychological damage, many parents today walk on eggshells, afraid to take charge as their kids veer out of control. This workshop will explore how therapists can model candor and directness to help parents reclaim their legitimate authority. The presenter will identify the common beliefs that prevent parents from taking a firmer stand and setting limits that their kids need and secretly want. Participants will learn concrete steps for moving parents from excess empathy to clear-minded accountability, without alienating their kids.