When clients express confusion about their own sexuality or sexual identity, it's tempting for therapists to move quickly to help them determine whether they fit into the categories of "gay," "straight," or "bisexual." Too often, however, this exploration isn't grounded in an understanding of the significant differences between sexual orientation, sexual fantasy, and sexual behavior. In this workshop, we'll examine specific questions and interventions that can gently lead confused clients to a clearer recognition of their authentic sexual identity--where thoughts, fantasies, and behaviors work in concert. You'll discover how to address the fears, homophobia, and anxieties these clients have about their sexual behavior, and how to help them understand their own sexuality and recognize the right lifestyle for them. We'll also discuss therapists' countertransference on these issues.