The standard remedy for couples in trouble is "better communication." But couples often get into a vicious cycle in which she communicates her fear of abandonment and anxiety, stimulating his feelings of inadequacy and shame, which he tries to numb with passive or active aggression. If the couple doesn't understand this unconscious, interactive dynamic, their attempts at communication will simply provoke and reinforce the same negative pattern. In this workshop, you'll learn how to break these destructive cycles, particularly the stalemate between angry, female criticism and silent, defensive male withdrawal, using methods based on the latest research into gender differences. You'll leave knowing how to shift the focus from fruitless attempts at verbal communication to emotional connection.