Sexual infidelity in a couple is generally regarded as a symptom of a deeply troubled relationship, and its revelation often threatens the entire foundation of trust and connection between partners. In this workshop, two therapists and an anthropologist will explore a nonjudgmental perspective on the meaning of affairs in different cultures and relationships. We'll examine the benefits and costs of truth-telling, how couples can rebuild trust and intimacy, and why affairs can stabilize a marriage. We'll consider how our own assumptions, moral values, and personal experiences influence our therapeutic work. You'll leave with a more nuanced therapeutic approach for working with extramarital relations, past and present, fantasized or real, disclosed or secret.