The deepest moments of couples' intimacy are often wordless, while the worst moments of isolation and disconnection often happen when couples are stuck in chronic, wordy, point-counterpoint debates. In this workshop, we'll focus on how to break these destructive cycles, particularly the stalemate between angry female criticism and silent, defensive, male withdrawal, using methods based on the latest research into gender differences. You'll learn how to help couples stop spinning themselves repeatedly into aroused but counterproductive neurophysiological states of male inadequacy and shame, female fear of abandonment and fury. You'll discover how to shift the focus from fruitless attempts at verbal communication to emotional connection, and create powerful, healing moments of positive emotion between partners right in session. By the end of the workshop, you'll have the skills for teaching your clients how to experience delight in each other's company and how to resolve, rather than endlessly rerun, problems.